change? why change?

why do people have to change so drastically? i hate that we try to change ourselves to fit the mold of people that we want to be like or be with, just because we think it will make ourselves more easily accepted...but in the process, we're not only losing ourselves as original individuals, we're losing all of those who liked us being original.

i also dislike when we shove aside our old friends to make room to hang out with people that couldn't less about us, just because they're there and convenient. how can you be okay with being used, much less willingly admit it to other people?

friendship shouldn't be about having to "schedule" a time to hang out, weeks in advance...whatever happened to spontaneity in life? the freedom to just call up a friend and get together? oh, but when you are so involved in yourself and your personal gains (sometimes at the pain of others) that you can't realize there's a world out there that wants to know you, then i can't blame you for being self-centered.

but hey, your old friends are still here, still deserving of respect and attention, even if we don't fit in the "flavor of the month" club.

and just because you can only think in one direction, doesn't mean you have to take that direction...there are other options you know.

maybe "not right now" really means "not right now"...don't push the issue.

but i know you're too stubborn to admit when you're wrong or when others are right...your pride keeps you from being humble...and makes the rest of us even more pissed off when you can't understand why we're upset in the first place. if i'm telling you something's wrong, something is wrong, i don't care if you don't think it's a BIG thing...something's wrong, dammit, so listen and stop being stubborn about it.