the nature of girlfriends

over the past few weeks i have come to realize how much more important girlfriends are in comparison to guys in a gal's life. girlfriends won't think of you only as a sexual object, they won't ditch you to make out with other guys, and they genuinely want to hang out with you and have conversations on a regular basis--especially in-depth ones about serious topics!

i do realize though that for the longest time, i seemed to be acruing more guy friends than girl friends, just because i found it easier to talk to guys and get along with them...i guess that came from growing up with my little brother. and being in serious relationships with guys for extended periods of time meant i had that built-in guy friend i could talk to about anything. but once i wasn't in a relationship anymore, i found i still needed a guy friend (one that could be a really good one i hoped) because i enjoyed having that perspective in my life. i thought i had two really good guy friends i could count on, each with different perspectives on life and with different experiences i shared with them...but as of late, it's like the distance between me and them has grown to be an ocean...i don't feel like we connect anymore, sadly.

but i am most greatful to megan for this past weekend and reaffirming my need for positive girls in my life, rather than guys who serve no purpose but to upset me. she and i have so many in-depth and insightful conversations, it really helps to just put things in perspective with her. she calls me her personal psychiatrist, but she is also mine!

it's so hard sometimes for us to step outside ourselves and see what we're doing wrong and what can be improved...but this weekend, i really got that chance to see how i fit in with the rest of the people i surround myself with, and those that i meet through others. i also saw how being in two different worlds affects people and how they act...mainly just a difference between the world of chapel hill versus the world of charlotte...the two are both home to universities, but totally different personas and atmospheres! (to anyone who might be reading this and thinking, "well duh," just humor me.) it's really a shock between the two cultures that exist even with a common group made of college students. unc charlotte exists in like an alternate universe than chapel hill. i guess that's why unc chapel hill attracts certain people and retains them, and why some of those who start at carolina end up going somewhere else (because they don't feel connected to what the school atmosphere is like). connecting to the place you attend school is a major part of actually liking it and being involved in it, it helps you adjust better with that transition between high school and college. i think the people we surround ourselves with are determined greatly by the atmosphere that we embed ourselves in, too. we pick our friends based on the people who can relate the best with us and share in our experiences and the environment they live in.

but having good girl friends really helps you see things a lot clearer, especially in that hazy realm of guys. even when i'm convinced that i can't see around a problem i'm having with one, i've been presented with a solution due to a girl friend having a great idea! girls really do stick together to keep their friends from getting hurt. i appreciate my girlfriends being there for me, to have fun and be silly when i'm sad. :)